Q: In your study on, “The Creation of Adam and Eve,” you state several times that man (and woman) is not complete alone. How does that square, then, with Colossions 2:10? I believe that God has made me complete, that I am dependent on Him and not on another person for fullness.

A: Colossions 2:10 is speaking about spiritual completeness in that we are “complete” in Him and, therefore, we are seated in the heavenlies and the recipients of every spiritual blessing (Ephesians 1). The issue in Genesis two concerns physical completeness for the purpose of an intimate relationship between a man and a woman, and the ability to produce children (which is the context of that particular passage). The general principle is that in the physical realm of intimacy, a man and a woman are incomplete until they are united in marriage.

Marriage, of course, is the norm. However, the Bible also reveals that God has given certain believers the gift of singleness in order to be able to devote more time to the work of the ministry, and those who have that gift do not suffer any sense of incompleteness in this area. Genesis two is speaking about what God has designed for the majority in that the majority are to marry and produce children. God, however, gives certain individuals a special calling to remain single for all their lives in order to devote all their time to Him. For those, there is no sense of hollowness or incompleteness, only a sense of mission. Examples of people in this realm would include the Prophets, Elijah and Jeremiah, the Apostle Paul and John the Baptist.